Fucking Hell

[trickykitty]

A month and a half later and I'm finally feeling anger over something that I probably should have been feeling anger about all along. Granted, this is a way shorter time span than the two years it took me to really feel anger about something else.

How can I expect someone else to apologize to me for something that I otherwise probably should have stopped from happening in the first place?

That's not a riddle. I'm honestly asking. I really don't know how to work my brain around that thought. I feel like I should be owed an apology, but at the same time, I take full responsibility for the fact that I didn't put an end to things happening myself. So, how is it right for me to feel like I'm hurt and angry and due an apology over something that I might have prevented from happening in the first place? Or is it right for me to feel these things at all?

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[disgruntledgirl]

It's your subconscious explaining to you "No one makes me a doormat - especially you."
So now you have to deal with it all the while remembering and making sure you don't repeat the mistake again.
You can't ask for that apology now - the time is gone, the lesson can't be learned by the person that perturbed you. It would just look like you flipping out over nothing. Trust me - it will not "just make you feel better to get it out into the air". The person will be blindsided and you will know: thus robbing you of "getting it off your chest".

Just don't let it happen again. You can wait an hour or a day to cool off and approach someone but if we're talking months... nope. No newspaper whapping joy for you, my friend.
:(

Unless it's assault, statue of limitations on an ass kicking is a decade.

*headdesk*

[trickykitty]

My first thought reading this: "No one puts Baby in a corner."

/sigh