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trickykitty) wrote2013-02-12 08:22 am
trickykitty) wrote2013-02-12 08:22 am
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Fucking Hell
A month and a half later and I'm finally feeling anger over something that I probably should have been feeling anger about all along. Granted, this is a way shorter time span than the two years it took me to really feel anger about something else.
How can I expect someone else to apologize to me for something that I otherwise probably should have stopped from happening in the first place?
That's not a riddle. I'm honestly asking. I really don't know how to work my brain around that thought. I feel like I should be owed an apology, but at the same time, I take full responsibility for the fact that I didn't put an end to things happening myself. So, how is it right for me to feel like I'm hurt and angry and due an apology over something that I might have prevented from happening in the first place? Or is it right for me to feel these things at all?
How can I expect someone else to apologize to me for something that I otherwise probably should have stopped from happening in the first place?
That's not a riddle. I'm honestly asking. I really don't know how to work my brain around that thought. I feel like I should be owed an apology, but at the same time, I take full responsibility for the fact that I didn't put an end to things happening myself. So, how is it right for me to feel like I'm hurt and angry and due an apology over something that I might have prevented from happening in the first place? Or is it right for me to feel these things at all?
yes
So now you have to deal with it all the while remembering and making sure you don't repeat the mistake again.
You can't ask for that apology now - the time is gone, the lesson can't be learned by the person that perturbed you. It would just look like you flipping out over nothing. Trust me - it will not "just make you feel better to get it out into the air". The person will be blindsided and you will know: thus robbing you of "getting it off your chest".
Just don't let it happen again. You can wait an hour or a day to cool off and approach someone but if we're talking months... nope. No newspaper whapping joy for you, my friend.
:(
Unless it's assault, statue of limitations on an ass kicking is a decade.
*headdesk*
/sigh