Real People
Jun. 22nd, 2011 10:43 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
trickykittyThe latter half of my previous head space post has been bugging me. It's taken me this long to fully digest and process why.
I mentioned before that I would very much prefer to be in a relationship. There is nothing wrong with this - I also prefer chocolate ice cream over vanilla. My issue is that my preference butts up next to those imaginary expectations, and this is driving a particularly bad default way of looking at people and dealing with social situations. I have a bad habit of objectifying people, particularly men. Needless to say, I don't like this - I don't enjoy my subconscious mind in the driver's seat.
I miss out on that real, human interaction when my mind jumps straight ahead into that fantasy land view of things. Whenever this happens I stop learning, listening, asking, and otherwise finding out more about the other person. Instead, I'm just utterly consumed by my imaginations. It's like taking the concept of eye candy and applying it in thick slabs on everyone and everything in every situation. That's not the way it should be. I know there's the uber-high moral ground idea that we shouldn't be looking upon people as eye candy at all, and that's not what I'm saying. I'm just saying that *I* happen to do it all the freaking time, and it's really becoming a bothersome thing.
Yet another bad habit to strangle.
I'm also practicing brevity and succinctness. How am I doing?
I mentioned before that I would very much prefer to be in a relationship. There is nothing wrong with this - I also prefer chocolate ice cream over vanilla. My issue is that my preference butts up next to those imaginary expectations, and this is driving a particularly bad default way of looking at people and dealing with social situations. I have a bad habit of objectifying people, particularly men. Needless to say, I don't like this - I don't enjoy my subconscious mind in the driver's seat.
I miss out on that real, human interaction when my mind jumps straight ahead into that fantasy land view of things. Whenever this happens I stop learning, listening, asking, and otherwise finding out more about the other person. Instead, I'm just utterly consumed by my imaginations. It's like taking the concept of eye candy and applying it in thick slabs on everyone and everything in every situation. That's not the way it should be. I know there's the uber-high moral ground idea that we shouldn't be looking upon people as eye candy at all, and that's not what I'm saying. I'm just saying that *I* happen to do it all the freaking time, and it's really becoming a bothersome thing.
Yet another bad habit to strangle.
I'm also practicing brevity and succinctness. How am I doing?
