Self-Portrait

[trickykitty]

I've been working a lot on keeping my writings, speech and internal thoughts to first person instead of second. It's pretty prevalent, and trying to adjust is not as easy as it sounds. It has allowed a significant level of clinical detachment to prevail when dealing with other people. It's easier for me to talk about my own issues when phrasing them as rules that the generic "you" population should follow. When helping a friend, it's been easier to say, "You should do this, and you should consider that," instead of phrasing it as "I would," or, better yet, asking them, "Have you... Did you."

Right now I'm going back and editing some of my previous posts. I can see where I've even changed mid-sentence from first- to second-person. Granted, if I were writing literature I probably would have caught it immediately. These are my thoughts that I'm writing, though, and so looking back and proofing them shows me when and where I was having more difficult times facing something directly rather than putting it out there as a command for the rest of the world to follow.

This also relates back to accepting responsibility for the things in my life. The more I can say "I" the more I can accept my role in my own life.