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[trickykitty]

This is hard to take: when you once were made to feel like you meant everything in the world to someone and then you come to find out that is not the case.

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[reneat.livejournal.com]

If I know anything about what you are talking about then I'm very sorry. At least now you know.

You probably don't want to hear it from over here, but...

[5tephe.livejournal.com]

I think you are both in a terrible position.

I think that maybe, in your own sub-conscious ways, you are both trying to distance yourselves from each other, and perhaps even each trying to wound the other a little bit. I think that you are doing this, a/ because 'the honeymoon is over', as they say, and b/ because long term, you both know you have to part.

I think that maybe, you are each letting yourselves be wounded, and feel hurt, and be annoyed by the other, so that you can feel justified in pulling away before you get too hurt ...at the end.

I hope you can talk to each other, and realise that hurting yourselves now only ... well- hurts each other. I hope you can figure out how not to need to do this.

Now, even though they're probably unwanted, and are definately useless:
(hugs)

I'm thinking about what you said.

[trickykitty.livejournal.com]

It's good, but I'm not sure I completely agree.

It sounds more like you're describing him than me. I don't think I've been distancing myself, or if I have been, he hasn't mentioned it. He has put me in a situation where I really have no other choice at this point. It's gone from a conversation about what will happen whenever he decides to leave to being one of him misjudging me and my personality and therefore he doesn't think I'm right for him.

Hence my original post.

Re: I'm thinking about what you said.

[5tephe.livejournal.com]

You are right, of course. I am writing from a position of knowing him a lot better then I know you. If, however, this can help you to understand what is going on with him, and why, a little better (and perhaps even what is going on with you, in reaction to him), then I hope you can take what I offer, and use it well.

If it helps to make things a little easier for you two to talk to each other about stuff, then that's great.

Hope you're both O.K.

Re: I'm thinking about what you said.

[geminibalance.livejournal.com]

It's gone from a conversation about what will happen whenever he decides to leave to being one of him misjudging me and my personality and therefore he doesn't think I'm right for him.

That sounds just a bit too familiar, although in a totally different circumstance. Sorry things got all hosed up, babe. Hang in there.