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trickykitty) wrote2012-08-23 11:58 am
trickykitty) wrote2012-08-23 11:58 am
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Damn it
I need alcohol. Or something.
I decided to withdrawal my house offer.
I wasn't worried about how long it would take to hear back from the bank. I could always go and rent an apartment if my primary issue was needing to move, but it isn't. My primary want is to find a house that's right for me within my budget. This isn't "just a move" for me. It's a decision to change my life's goals, step away from the idea of going to grad school, and settle somewhere I feel comfortable. I've already found a few houses that I've fallen in love with, but they aren't going to be mine due to reasons I've mentioned before. This does tell me, however, that I know what it feels like when a house feels right to me.
What I've been noticing over the past week is how apprehensive I've been feeling ever since putting in my offer. I was in indecision about the house a bit to begin with, and with it being a short sale, I was a lot more limited on my ability to negotiate the price to something I'm more comfortable with. Every time I try to picture myself living there, though, I come up with a pretty dull image. I was starting to dread hearing the news that they accepted my offer, and that's a really huge red flag that I can't ignore. Rather than adding to my happy anxiety like when I was waiting to hear back on the previous house offers, this one was weighing me down further and further every time I thought about it.
So, I feel downright horrible for withdrawing my offer and the work I've put a few people through, but I'm already feeling better about withdrawing the offer in general. I'd rather have figured this out now than after going under contract to purchase the home and then REALLY regretting my decision.
I'm requesting to go back and look at the contender house that I was trying to pick between when deciding which of the two houses I wanted to put an offer in on. It needs a little work, but it feels more like me, and the size is right. The work needed was what tipped the scales in favor of the other house, but I've said before I'm not afraid of a little work. Also, some of the issues are ones that we might be able to get the current owners to take care of, as they are perfectly visible right now and are probably still going to be an issue with the lender appraisal.
Looking back - I think the hiccups should have been a dead giveaway. I only get hiccups when I'm having serious anxiety over something.
Yep, I need a drink.
I decided to withdrawal my house offer.
I wasn't worried about how long it would take to hear back from the bank. I could always go and rent an apartment if my primary issue was needing to move, but it isn't. My primary want is to find a house that's right for me within my budget. This isn't "just a move" for me. It's a decision to change my life's goals, step away from the idea of going to grad school, and settle somewhere I feel comfortable. I've already found a few houses that I've fallen in love with, but they aren't going to be mine due to reasons I've mentioned before. This does tell me, however, that I know what it feels like when a house feels right to me.
What I've been noticing over the past week is how apprehensive I've been feeling ever since putting in my offer. I was in indecision about the house a bit to begin with, and with it being a short sale, I was a lot more limited on my ability to negotiate the price to something I'm more comfortable with. Every time I try to picture myself living there, though, I come up with a pretty dull image. I was starting to dread hearing the news that they accepted my offer, and that's a really huge red flag that I can't ignore. Rather than adding to my happy anxiety like when I was waiting to hear back on the previous house offers, this one was weighing me down further and further every time I thought about it.
So, I feel downright horrible for withdrawing my offer and the work I've put a few people through, but I'm already feeling better about withdrawing the offer in general. I'd rather have figured this out now than after going under contract to purchase the home and then REALLY regretting my decision.
I'm requesting to go back and look at the contender house that I was trying to pick between when deciding which of the two houses I wanted to put an offer in on. It needs a little work, but it feels more like me, and the size is right. The work needed was what tipped the scales in favor of the other house, but I've said before I'm not afraid of a little work. Also, some of the issues are ones that we might be able to get the current owners to take care of, as they are perfectly visible right now and are probably still going to be an issue with the lender appraisal.
Looking back - I think the hiccups should have been a dead giveaway. I only get hiccups when I'm having serious anxiety over something.
Yep, I need a drink.
yeah sadly
However make sure you would not feel this way about any house that's on your list.
Are you sure your emotions changed or your perception?
Example: "Ok the giddy feeling wore off and whoa what an ugly duckling"
or... was it
"Ok wait hold on. I might actually have to move? Commit to this?"
I only ask because last night you did send me an email akin to a small meltdown about moving away from us. Yes it was sweet - until this change of mind. So be careful.
Roz mentioned the same worry
I'm going tomorrow during lunch to see again the other contender house. I'll have a pretty good idea of where my feelings are at that point, but I'm pretty sure it was me trying to talk myself into a house that I didn't really want that was causing the problem.