DeadOperaStar says it best
Jan. 27th, 2012 03:21 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
trickykittyAll that previous Head Space work, and this person manages to summarize it in a nice, succinct paragraph. I really could have stood to have read something like this a few months ago.
From here
There have been a few occasions when I've offended or put off people by violating one or more of their taboos. This wasn't because I wished to be nasty or offensive at all, but rather because of several different factors. 1. I can be insensitive to the reactions of others. 2. I can understand a cultural or group attitude objectively, but in some important way, I might not internalize it. The concepts of profanity or sacrilege, for some reason have little to no emotional value with me, other than being humorous at times (which is what gets us into trouble, now isn't it..). 3. I often forget that people can't really see inside my head. This means that perhaps the intents or directions of my remarks end up obscure or partially unstated.
Well, I could go on, but you probably get the idea. Basically, for someone to tell me, "Hey, better safe than sorry.." might have checked my remarks, especially if it were communicated to me that I might actually be HURTING people or THREATENING them by my words or actions. Not only that, but also it wouldn't hurt to have known that I'd be embarrassing myself, most likely.
From here
There have been a few occasions when I've offended or put off people by violating one or more of their taboos. This wasn't because I wished to be nasty or offensive at all, but rather because of several different factors. 1. I can be insensitive to the reactions of others. 2. I can understand a cultural or group attitude objectively, but in some important way, I might not internalize it. The concepts of profanity or sacrilege, for some reason have little to no emotional value with me, other than being humorous at times (which is what gets us into trouble, now isn't it..). 3. I often forget that people can't really see inside my head. This means that perhaps the intents or directions of my remarks end up obscure or partially unstated.
Well, I could go on, but you probably get the idea. Basically, for someone to tell me, "Hey, better safe than sorry.." might have checked my remarks, especially if it were communicated to me that I might actually be HURTING people or THREATENING them by my words or actions. Not only that, but also it wouldn't hurt to have known that I'd be embarrassing myself, most likely.
