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What's the difference between being manipulative and being a control freak? Is there a difference?

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Date: 2011-08-30 07:24 pm (UTC)
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If manipulating, in it's vaguest sense is the act of changing or influencing something, intent is not needed.
You had no intent to manipulate, but your action did change or influence something.

What Toaism is probably hitting on is that we do not function in a vacuum. That we should be aware of, and when possible choose, how we affect the world around us. Choosing a life of action not reaction, as it were.
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From: [personal profile] damia
I think I see where you are going with that, but 'acting to do something' still involves intent. I think what you are trying to say is that manipulation requires a specific type of intent in order to exist.


No, you've entirely missed it.

Manipulation has three modes.
Intent to change: an abstract concept or thought
Act of change: a physical action
Influence of the change: how the action is interpreted by the environment.

None of these are dependent upon another.
The formula should have a simple linear progression: Intent > Action > Influence

Seems like it'd be easy. But it's really an acquired skill.

We've already discussed that the brain sometimes fibs and makes up a rationalization for an action after the fact.
So you can have an action with no intent (or no discernible intent at the time of action). But your action will still influence the environment. At which point you may very well make up a plausible reason for your action.

Taoism accepts that all actions influence the environment. It aims to create that linear progression. That you first formulate an intent, create an action and it then has the desired influence on the environment.

I could expound on this more but the muscle relaxers are kicking in and it's getting a bit hard to type, let alone think in any coherent fashion.

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