trickykitty | On Dating

So, I feel I can talk publicly about this now because all parties involved have been made aware of my intentions. I don't normally discuss my relationship life on such a public venue as this, but it's really such an overarching feature of my life at this very moment that I just feel like talking about it without going into too many specifics.

I have two simultaneous suitors*.

A third interested party is much more cherished by me as a friend, so I've sadly declined his offer of romantic dating. A fourth refuses to give up his own Casanova lifestyle** and lack of interest in a monogamous relationship, so I'm unable to consider him for something long term and have had to put distance between myself and him despite my previously high interest.

I'm used to only having one suitor to either date briefly and then go our separate ways or to become bf/gf. This sudden rush (within the past month or so) of actual dating-with-intent offers is pretty overwhelming. Don't get me wrong, I've had plenty of simultaneous dating-without-intent offers, or perhaps they were with-intent offers but I wasn't interested in that side of things.

It looks like my social calendar just got bumped up a notch, which is good that I actually purchased a calendar a couple of weeks ago to keep track of stuff. I'm not sure how this is going to turn out. Both guys live considerably farther away than I like, and planning dates is like piecing together a puzzle at times. If you know me in real life then you are probably also real life friends with one or the other of the guys, but not both, as they are actually from two different social circles.

I will eventually either opt to continue dating just one of these fellows exclusively, or else discover that neither will pan out and we're all just better off as friends. Either way, my goal isn't to trail them along nor continue long term in this fashion of dating more than one. I guess time will tell.

*Suitors may be considered an archaic term nowadays, but it's actually fitting to my situation. And yes, I do expect a level of good ol' fashioned courting and wooing, but that's because I'm a good ol' fashioned girl.

**Ok, so maybe saying it's a Casanova lifestyle is a bit reaching, but it doesn't change the fact that he wants more than one woman in his life, refuses to call it polyamory, doesn't like that I call it a harem, and isn't interested in a monogamous relationship - what else should I call it?