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Aug. 30th, 2011
Full Circle
Aug. 30th, 2011 11:31 amYour negative emotions are alarm clocks that are providing you with important information. This is why there is absolutely nothing wrong with the emotions you are feeling. They are informative. USE this information, rather than allowing it to use you and cause that pollution.
We get trapped into thinking that the emotion is what is supposed to be dealt with, and so we wallow in it, we talk about it, we share it, we allow it to upset us - we allow it to pollute ourselves and the world around us.
Hit the snooze button on the alarm and understand that you now have work to do to figure out the real problem, the real thought, the real issue that's causing that alarm to go off in your mind.
My most common negative emotion is feeling uncomfortable.
I keep focusing on my discomfort as though that is the source of the problem. I have to make whatever is making me uncomfortable stop making me uncomfortable, or so I thought.
As I figured out from commenting on a post, it is my fear of the unknown consequences that is my problem. I'm a control freak. If I don't feel like I have control, if I don't feel like the consequences are within my range of prediction or if I don't like what I am predicting, then that's when I start to feel uncomfortable. I start implementing actions to gain control in my favor - to make my predictions be accurate.
This brings me back to my previous discussions on expectations, imaginations, and prediction.
We get trapped into thinking that the emotion is what is supposed to be dealt with, and so we wallow in it, we talk about it, we share it, we allow it to upset us - we allow it to pollute ourselves and the world around us.
Hit the snooze button on the alarm and understand that you now have work to do to figure out the real problem, the real thought, the real issue that's causing that alarm to go off in your mind.
My most common negative emotion is feeling uncomfortable.
I keep focusing on my discomfort as though that is the source of the problem. I have to make whatever is making me uncomfortable stop making me uncomfortable, or so I thought.
As I figured out from commenting on a post, it is my fear of the unknown consequences that is my problem. I'm a control freak. If I don't feel like I have control, if I don't feel like the consequences are within my range of prediction or if I don't like what I am predicting, then that's when I start to feel uncomfortable. I start implementing actions to gain control in my favor - to make my predictions be accurate.
This brings me back to my previous discussions on expectations, imaginations, and prediction.
Full Circle
Aug. 30th, 2011 11:58 amWhat's the difference between being manipulative and being a control freak? Is there a difference?