LOL - I think we're saying the same thing, but in different ways, which is kind of ironic given the subject matter.

What I've learned from that book on communication styles is that it boils down to being more attuned to the communication styles of others so that I can tailor my speech to fit their style more than my own. They're more likely to understand "correctly" the message being conveyed if I am able to pay attention and meet their communication needs which may be different from mine.